I think I am figuring it out in my case. Think about it for yourself: the romantic part of your R with H is dead, gone. For now ignore your hope that it may come back, and assume it is not going to.
So what is left is a strained friendship with a business partner. You have to work together to raise the kids and coordinate finances, and you want things to stay cordial, so you will treat them politely as a guest, but that's it...
So how do you act whan that person comes to visit?
Friendly, welcoming, professional, polite
But romance, sex, etc would never even enter into your mind...
Not even a consideration!
Awesome except that said husband typically wants to get down my pants. This is, I must say one area that is quite different for most men vs. women.
And, what a mindf*ck it can be...flirty, romantic, enticing...still leaving...so, my resolve must be ironclad.
Imagine Mrs. Thinker starts giving you the vibe, means something, stirs something in you, right? Well, I have to walk the line. I may ALWAYS want H to want me but I've got to keep it cool.
