He's not sleeping here. However, getting his stuff out would take forever, he has so much sh*t and it would be shocking to our kids, really. I can still set boundaries though. Just need that stick.
What I really want is a nice concise list of what gets my mojo brewing and I suppose I'll have to make it myself. I've gotten so much from all of you. Perhaps I can compile and list here what has worked for me. It is my state of mind that needs calibrating at this juncture. Must maintain mojo generation. Seriously, I've got to resolve my own emotional position regarding H. Then, I believe the communication and necessary actions will flow. It has been working to a degree with the distance between us, I just have to step it up and wear the armor.
