So do you think that she's seemingly depressed and distant (emotionally empty) because the OM isn't a presence any more? In this case, she still says she wants out.
Any thoughts? Coach? Anyone else?
You doubt this because.....
You write it out like it's something you might consider as a possibility but you still sound like you're ruling it out because she can't be attracted to this other guy because you should be all she needs.
Yes she's depressed, distant and hurt that this person she has feelings for isn't in the picture anymore.
Aren't you hurt because your wife doesn't have those feelings for you?
