Different sitch in that H left with only a duffle bag and has his office here and some sense of entitlement to "our" home. The game has to change but I haven't been able to determine what is in our (kids and my) best interest.

I need to be able to respond the way I have been responding with the distance between us. I need to be able to engage in difficult conversations without going into ego, panic, fear modes.

I need MOJO... grin