I dont really believe in GALing, I believe in SURVIVING
- that's probably the attitude that got you into some of the problems you're experiencing in your marriage/relationship.
Just surviving is boring, it's not exciting and definitely is a relationship killer.
Surviving is not where it's at, THRIVING is where you need to be.
- and saying that not everyone has the ability or funds to GAL is just a cop out, a poor excuse.
You have time to chat on a pc, if you need funds, get a part time job, getting a life means hanging out with friends, going out, experiencing the world even if it means just your little portion of it, go to a gym, go for walks, join activity clubs, go to school, take a class, volunteer, get involved with a charity organization, etc. instead of wallowing in your self-pity. Enjoy your life, it's the only one you will get to live and if you spend it just trying to survive you are wasting your life and that's probably the vibe you gave your spouse and after a while people get tired of just getting by & surviving - they want more and who can blame them.
Our existence is linear, point A to point B, we're born, we live and we die.
The secret is to make the most out of the time spent between point A & point B.
Focusing on surviving is really just waiting for point B to happen.
Hope I wasn't too cruel in my analogy but sometimes people need a kick in the pants to wake up from their funk.
