Actually the hardnose attraction stuff that robx was referring to didn't work too good in frank_d's case.
That's why everyone's got to work on a strategy that suits their sitch.
- what hardnose attraction stuff are you referring? LOL!
Too funny.
Attraction is at the heart of all of these relationship issues. If you aren't attracted to your spouse, what would motivate you to work on the relationship & make it better?
As far as "frank_d's" case, we really don't know what he did or how he did it so you can't say that working on improving attraction doesn't work - more than likely whatever he did do wasn't successful at improving the attraction with his wife. Being nice, buying gifts, providing truckloads of attention, doing things and always being there isn't going to improve attraction. Plus we don't know how much frank_d has been honest considering his respective situation: these are hard issues to deal with and sometimes people don't want to be honest with the things they've done to hurt the relationship because they're afraid of rejection even from anonymous strangers on the internet.
Improving attraction is where it's at, doing things that improve attraction is what needs to be done and there are many methods for doing this. Don't fault the methods, fault the practices used to employ them.
Being attracted to someone isn't a conscious decision that anyone makes so when you're attracted to someone it's because you are attracted to them physically, a person excites you, they have traits that you find appealing: sexy, strong, secure, ambitious, independant, aggressive, assertive, funny, confident/quasi-arrogant,etc.
