So how fast did your W turn around after you started dating? Again, just curious. And is there any reason why you're not reconciled if she's doing all that?
As I mentioned in another post, very fast.
Here's the thing, you can't just take them back just like that. They have to realize that you have alot of value, how important you are, what you bring to this relationship equation.
If you just show that you're that easy to win back, there is no challenge in that, very boring, very predictable.
Plus you can't just take your spouse back without any work on both of your parts.
You can't go back to the relationship you had, you can't EVER go back to what you had. What you had led you to this point in your life and in your relationship, going back will lead you back to the same place.
The relationship has to change dramatically and you have to stay on your toes and challenge yourself to be a better person for yourself first & foremost. You have to realize that after something like this, you will always be tested and consequently you were always being tested and your wife was doing this without even knowing she was testing you - everytime she pushed past a boundary, everytime she was able to disrespect you, lie to you, hide things from you - each time any of those things happened, her respect for you kept plummeting.
You have to expect the best from yourself and your partner. You have to challenge her to do better because frankly you're worth it and she needs to know that if she wants to keep you and if she thinks you will wait around forever because you are devoted to your marriage then you are hurting your chances of getting her back because she has nothing to work for if she knows you will be waiting all this time.
LRT, 180s, going dark, getting a life, dating, etc.
