Dear Lord, this is exactly, exactly what I have been thinking. Bagheera, what do you think would be the most effective thing I could do to make progress with myself? I am of course willing to read and learn and work hard and I will continue to do that, but would sex therapy or a particular kind of individual counseling, different from what I have now, be the most effective/expedient? Maybe something else?
If the Marriage Counselor fails to yield results after a few months, then you may want to seek out an AASECT certified Sex Therapist for the two of you. In the meantime:
** Read and apply The Sex-Starved Marriage, by Michele Wiener-Davis. If you can, get your wife to read at least Chapter 1, which is available on-line. If she'll read more, great!
** Read and apply No More Mr. Nice Guy, by Robert Glover. If you have the symptoms of the so-called Nice Guy syndrome, then this will help you find you way out of it.
