GETTING UN'STUCK'

[MrBond]

What I had told my W was that she was abandoning her kids like her dad did to her. She flipped it around and said that she would be active in their lives unlike her dad. Then I flipped it back and told her that she'd only be active for "half" of their lives since I would have the other half. And I told her that I know how much it would kill her to not have the kids with her and to see them with another mom because if we got divorced it wouldn't be a matter of "if" I found another woman, it would just be a matter of when. She didn't say anything after that.

I think she's still in the un-reality of it all. She has never even mentioned anything about money or where to live, or anything like that. She just wants out. So I told her that if she wanted to leave, I wasn't stopping her and that if she really believed that it was our M that is making her miserable, then she can leave. I told her that I was fine as a single dad and while I loved her very much, I didn't NEED her.

I think I had that conversation with her first in Feb. Then it came up again a couple of times since, the latest being two weeks ago. And she hasn't made any move to leave and seems to be content at home.

So what do you think she wants? Could she be waiting for someone "better" to come along and then leave with him?

I told her if she were planning to date, I expect her to have our D done with but she hasn't done anything to look up D or find a L or anything to move towards a D. Even though she threatens alot with it.