So what I've recently learned is that when she tells me something, no matter how small, it's important to her. Many of the WAWs on here talk about how they kept telling their Hs about what was wrong and they couldn't get the hint. Well my W says things once, sometimes even in casual conversations and expects me to "understand". I think for the majority of our R I've been mindreading her. Believe me, from day one I've always asked her if something was wrong, or how was her day, etc. just to get her to open up. She would just say "my day was okay" or "nothing's wrong". Even though obviously there is.
Man, this is sooooo from the WAW script/pattern. Exactly the same for me. My W said she had been sending me "signals" the last several months before she dropped the bomb, which I did not pick up on - casual statement passing in the hall type thing. She has told friends of ours it is "too bad for me" and "my problem" that I did not pick up on her "sigals" - which I still am in the dark about.
Early in our R, I would ask a lot bout whether something was wrong if I suspected it. She actually told me back then that she was an open person who would tell me if there was something wrong - I "would not have to wonder. I would know since she would tell me." Funny how the present sitch makes one look back on comments like those.
