I will use the analogy that I have used on my own thread. I used to be a flight attendant and we would do the oxygen mask demo. I always thought it was wrong to put the mask on the adult first, it should go on the child.
Then while going through my divorce I finally got it. I have to put it on the adult(me) first so that I can help the kids and help others. If I put it on the child first they may not know what to do and everyone could perish. (Okay, maybe not that dramatic, but you get the point. And in case you were wondering, I never was a cheerleader though I wanted to be. Just too darn shy).
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory