Why do you think he's still lying? I don't think there is anything else that could be going on... Help? I'm confused.
He is still angry because he feels like he started the affair and feels guilty.
There are a number of warning flags that jump out at me:
- His lying to you until you showed him proof.
- Most men don't have EA-only's.
- How angry and defensive he got with you.
- How quickly he lost his remorseful/contrite attitude with you.
- re-writing of marital history
- The lack of SL between the two of you recently.
The biggest flag to me was his claim that he no longer has feelings for her. Now, maybe he's only trying to protect YOU from the truth, but there's no way withdrawal would happen that quickly if their feelings for each other were as you described from their e-mails.
Of course, I could be wrong. I'm just giving you my opinion, but it doesn't smell right to me. I think he's acting desperately to protect his girlfriend from professional exposure, and I think he'd tell you ANYTHING at this point to get you to drop that avenue.
