You need to expose their affair to her supervisors -- PERIOD. Preferably with a copy to the State licensing review board as well.
This is the first I'm hearing about physical abuse. If that's the case, you need to GET OUT -- NOW. Do you have someone with whom you can stay?
EO, he is still lying to you. A cheater will always lie --ALWAYS -- and you can be assured that he's only telling you things in dribs and drabs, AS HE NEEDS TO (as you confront him with proof). I suspect there's at LEAST half of it you don't know.
I'm sorry. Please protect yourself.
Puppy
I agree- still lying.
The red flags are that he doesn't know if he wants to be married and the basic rewriting of the marital history. All cheaters do it. He's awful angry and "rushing" you to move past this. Also, he doesn't want to have sex with you-which is a big red flag.
What made you go and confront the therapist? Why was H with you?
Ask him to take a lie detector test. His reaction to the question alone will tell you if he's really sorry and not pursuing her.
To be blunt, I find it very odd that a man would have an EA only. I'm not saying it doesn't happen but I think it's rare. That's because one of their top emotional needs is sex. They generally only pursue someone as someone they want to be sexual with- even if there is an emotional connection. This is just my personal opinion and only based on being on several relationship boards for years and reading about infidelity. It usually begins emotional but most men need to move to sex to stay interested.
