Hugs to You! I need to take a lesson from your book on detachment. I can't seem to do it. Sounds like your H is acting like mine---gotta find some happiness for myself stuff b/c this relationship doesn't make me happy! I don't know about your H, but mine has not had a lot of psychological health for some time. He's never worked on his own issues and so it is easier to blame me for all of his unhappiness.
I guess we both need to keep focusing on the positive things in our life to get through this. So hard to do... Let's makes lists, ok?
So here is my "Grateful List":
Beautiful and healthy son Husband who still loves me and is living in same house Huge capacity to love Desire to be in a loving, committed relationship Family that loves me Health (mental and physical) Desire and ability to have more children 2 master's degrees Fulfilling career with prestige and good salary Material comforts Oh, and I've lost 26 lbs b/c of this! And two big ones---Faith and Hope
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Me 39, H 41 M 17, T 21 Son, 4 Bomb 2.09, Two EAs Separated 8.4.09 My Long Story and First Postings
