I think it was a good letter and I feel honored that you used parts of mine. I actually wrote 22 letters in all to my W - maybe a bit too many and most during a 2 month span following the bomb when I was emotionally heart broken, but she did thank me for them. I also recently gave her all the letters and cards that I wrote her leading up to and during our marriage - I am sure it will be painful for her to read those again as the are very sentimental. She wrote me a few heartfelt letters and cards and one that I could tell was after she had met with a counselor.
It is indeed actually better for your own peace of mind than for your W's. Writing can have a calming effect and allow you to get in words that which is difficult to speak without breaking down emotionally.
