I told him that I was sorry to hear that but that is in the past. Now is the time to make sure that doesn't happen to our D4 as she grows.
I think I would have gone is a slightly different direction with this something like "I'm really sorry to hear that, it must have really suc*ed." When you bring up D4 all the time (and I know she's in the front of your mind) it may not help. I know I have pretty much stopped H for feedback with regards to D's b/c he said he feels like I'm looking for him to "fix" whatever problem is current. I explained I wasn't looking for him to fix it and now I don't update much.
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I reminded him to don't let his past get caught up in his future with D4.
Don't remind him of this. He may be dealing with his past in some way or another and your reminders kind of sound like you're minimizing whatever he feels. I know that isn't the intent, but isn't there a road somewhere paved with good intentions?
