Hi Sue I think you are right you should def lay off the R talk for now. Next time you see your H you should tell him this eg "it's all getting a bit heavy recently, so let's not have R talk now but just enjoy each other's company" or whatever. You are right you mustn't go back to what you used to have. Keep on finding ways of making yourself happy. I think it was a mistake to say if you are to have a future together you would like to help choose the boat (too much pressure). The best thing would be to express an interest in his boating and ask if he would mind you coming along to the boat shows. There are a lot of signs he does want to be with you and make things work(overnight bag!, visiting family, trips out, him trying to talk when he clearly doesn't like talking much), but if you push too hard you may scare him off. Hope you keep posting I like reading your posts.
