I don't mean for you to go to her with anger, just stand firm. My mind is saying one thing but when I type it out it says something different. I guess something is lost in translation.
I keep forgetting we are dealing with the opposite sex. I am dealing with a man who will get angry but then as most men do, let things go. You are dealing with a woman (and we both know how women are) who can sit on something and not budge for days. I know how I get when I get defensive so I know what you are going thru. I guess you are right, you are in a no win situation. We get a bee in our bonnet and all hell breaks loose.
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It's out of my hands whether or not she wakes up, but I think it could happen.
Yes it could happen. That is one of the reasons why I waited as long as I did. I had that hope also. Stranger things have happened. You are the only one who knows how long to wait. You will know when the time is right to move on. Until then, I say leave the door cracked but don't leave it open too far until she is ready to be the person you can live with.
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I just don't see the need to hurry up and make that decision to slam the door forever.
No, you don't need to make that decision right now. I never said you needed to.
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She does all the pursuing (all beit for some crazy reasons but still).
She does it because she is not ready to give you up. She wants to be on her own and live her life the way she wants but yet she doesn't want to give you up fully in the process. She knows you have stopped a lot of contact with her and maybe she is afraid if she doesn't call you or email you then she will lose hold of you all together. You are her security blanket. If you walk away from her then you are taking her security away.
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I can control myself better than I have been, and no I don't think that still says I want her back.
In my honest opinion, I think you are controlling yourself very well. We all have backslides at one point or another.
