So what I've recently learned is that when she tells me something, no matter how small, it's important to her. Many of the WAWs on here talk about how they kept telling their Hs about what was wrong and they couldn't get the hint. Well my W says things once, sometimes even in casual conversations and expects me to "understand". I think for the majority of our R I've been mindreading her. Believe me, from day one I've always asked her if something was wrong, or how was her day, etc. just to get her to open up. She would just say "my day was okay" or "nothing's wrong". Even though obviously there is.
Wow! we are married to twins separated at birth
I have the same issue. An open conversation with my W is one where she uses a full sentence including an adjective to describe her feelings: "I feel empty". After that, she feels she has completely expressed it, there is no more to say, and if I don't fully understand ("What do you mean by 'empty'?") then I am just not listening to her...
Just letting you know you are not alone...
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
