If I come at her with anger and a good boundary, it will go to waste. My anger will shut her down completely and cause her to become even more defensive, not to mention void the boundary that needs to be set. I need to keep it in check somehow.
There is a way to do it right and it's so easy to forget.
I do not want her back the way she is. It will never work.
Yes, I want her to leave me alone, unless it is for a legit reason, but part of that was my fault in just trying to avoid her at all costs.
I don't see myself as sitting on the fence, again no I don't want her the way she is. It's out of my hands whether or not she wakes up, but I think it could happen.
I just don't see the need to hurry up and make that decision to slam the door forever. Why? I think there is a healthy way to do this and it happens to be the most difficult way to go.
