Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Lisa, Kat, K! Seems I just need to keep plodding on for now hey?

And hi Cyrena!! You followed me here to piecing, cant believe i made it, on the other hand I always knew that I would (wierd huh). I saw a friend Tuesday, but he wanted me to drive to his after to stay the night. Last night I suggested we have Cher and G round for a barbecue. So I am not being too clingy with him and I am carrying on like before in lots of ways, as you say and involving friends, making it all fun and light so far...Thanks for saying it will take 18 months-2 years, you just reminded me, thats how long it took me after my EA before I was REALLY sorry and able to talk openly and also to forgive myself. So, yep, WAY too early yet!

Its hard though.. the more attached to him I get, the more nervous/insecure I feel (only a little, but its popping up here and there). I just called him but he sounded a bit not so bothered and a little distracted..so then I wasnt so confident with him! Grr. We are going back home tommorow for the weekend, together. SIL is having a baby and is in labour now. He still hasnt told me where we are staying, but I have a horrible feeling he may want to take me to my Mums or something and he will go to his. I hope not, I am still close to MIL and I am sure she would love to have us to stay, like we used to.

BUT, its the first visit home since Sept 07 where we are back to 'normal', as a couple.. so it makes it official now. Its a big milestone. My parents nearly saw him this week.. they were nearby with friends and I met them for a drink Monday night, he phoned 3 times when I was out, so I had invited him to join us, but he actually admitted he was nervous to meet my Mum (hasnt since we split)..I told him she would love to see him and he didnt have to worry about it at all. So.. we may see them this weekend, they want to and I want to get it out the way. Its going to be a big weekend, with SIL having the baby and being around his brother and MIL. I am excited.

AND he is coming to stay here tonight so we can get going at 6am, so another first.. he's only been into my bedroom once, briefly, after we split, just to stroke the cat.

I read somewhere that astrologically, this weekend and Friday in particular is like the "day of reckoning" for wherever you have paid your dues over the past months and months.. when you finally see the fruits of your labours (or not, depending on how you have handled it).. and its the day we go back home as a couple. So I hope it goes alrught and doesnt freak him out !!!