Learning to Detach

[kjensen]

Update:
Things are going OK. It is hard to be at this stage. Every once-in-while H and I revert to our old "bad" communication habits..H gets very discouraged when this happens(as do I, but I expect some setbacks)..H is off antidepressants and is much more stressed and emotional(teary)..He at least tends to recognize this most of the time. I've encouraged him to talk to his MD about trying a different A/D...H did set up, on his own, MC for us next week with the therapist that ran our communication class. So that is extremely hopeful.

We are in a flurry to possibly sell our home and downsize to a nearby area(about 2 miles from where we live now), the kids would stay in the same school and be even closer to some of their friends..This is a stressful proposition which makes tons of sense financially and feels good in many ways emotionally (fresh start, less "baggage" of stuff/things, no maintenance property- so more free time for each other and kids), but its scary since we are just starting to be together again. H did say he loved me, and is close physically, but there is still some distance as he is still "getting" over breakup with OW...

So we will see. Scary/exciting time..hard work, piecing.