Hi mdoodles, H and I have been separated since Sept. with him living with OW. So I'm looking to get a legal separation in place. Remember I was looking at my legal options to get something set up to clarify our outstanding debt and such. So I think the legal separation would be a good option.
Karen: I'm doing well actually. Haven't spoken to H since Monday. I've been trying to keep up my PMA. I need to actually for my own well being. Haven't felt totally sad. I've been missing H still and feeling lonely at times but been GALing to fill the void.
So my attorney got back to me and she will set up the agreement for $1500. Yippee. She will put that H is responsible for the legal cost- figure let him contest that, but I have to pay the retainer up front so I know it will be a struggle to get him to pay. Hey, the best part of the legal contract is that we will not be able to divorce for 1 year after it is submitted to the court. I think that's good b/c it gives me a set deadline. If this goes through and after a yr H and I are still here, then I will do the divorce. I know that will be more than enough time. So I'm actually really comfortable with this next step. My thought is that since we're separated lets spell out the terms that we will operate under and if we reconcile we should have a reconciliation agreement too.
I know it will shock my H when he gets served with it. Goooood!!
