Thanks! I realize I'm a huge part of the problem, my refusal to get a life because I felt guilty not putting H and D first, and then getting mad if H didn't want to spend every free moment with me.

H is probably tired of being "responsible" for me - I think as soon as we were an item I was deferring to him on everything. Now I'm doing things my way, and it feels good.

Me - 30, H - 32
T - 10, M - 6, D - 1
DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2
on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10)
Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011