To be honest in the beginning I did but I found out 3 things: 1. It's not fair to the kids 2. It's too painful 3. I was trying to control
I talk to the kids about things pertaining to them. My wife does not listen to them or give them the opportunity to talk about anything. I will listen if they want to tell me about school, going to the zoo, playing in the dirt, whatever it is that they want to talk about. Many times though when it involves my wife or "friend", I will change the subject.
If I know or suspect that one of my kids is upset or bothered by something, I am going to ask regardless of who's involved.
