I believe you have a great state of mind. You are very aware that YOU need to make changes. It is very good that you both will be going to counseling! That is huge!
All I can say is keep reading self improvement books and making positive changes for you.....
HUGS
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
