You have had solutions. I notice whenever you want to do something it seems people tend to knock you down. I don't understand this. Yes, everyone has their own opinions and I am all for any advice given but in the end, only YOU know how to handle your xw.
I feel I was avoiding her, letting her chip away at me, because I THOUGHT that being divorced would change things. It hasn't. I avioded it and bottled it up and let other things (work, money, the list goes on) be an excuse to be angry. I'm better than that.
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I just think sometimes the gloves have to come off and you have to get in there and fight it out. MLC or crazyville. Does everyone expect you to stoop to her level all the time just because she is not all with it?
Yeah but being p*ssed whether I have a right to be or not is stooping and playing her game. I can't do that.
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Sometimes you have to shock them into coming slightly back to reality.
I can't control her reality. I tried this in the beginning.
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The more you pull away nicely, the more she is going to come around. The more you ignore her now, the more she is going to come around.
This is right on and I wasn't expecting it. I thought the opposite would happen. Which caused me to get tossed for a loop. I let my guard down and failed to maintain my boundaries.
D land is new territory for me. I still have work to do.
