Hopefully now she will turn that part of her heart that she continued to give to the OM back to you. Its great that the relationship between them crashed the way it did and did not linger for years!!! She gave you herself physically but her heart to the OM. Its funny because it was reverse when she was with him!! It should be interesting now that she doesn't have the OM and you found out her continued contact.....how she will respond from this point on!!