another newcomer - thread #2

[JKL2009]

It has been 8 weeks since she dropped "the bomb" and over the last 4 weeks or so I have not once initiated any talk of the relationship. I have kept some distance, shown interest as a friend in things, been a good father, and when she does talk to her I have given her my undivided attention. In other words, I have not used words but actions to show her I love her and have made changes.

When she has brought up things, I listen and validate. I don't argue, don't defend myself. I agree with everything. It comes down to this: 1) no pressuring/pursuit, 2) agree with everything/validate, 3) act happy/no mooping or pity party, 4) actions not words.