Smileysperson: Yeah I know backslides happen, I'm not really looking at this as a backslide though, I can honestly say that I can't live with her there for the next possible year or so, I guess I could but at what cost? The resentment would build and surely show itself more often than is healthy for my kids.
My decision has been made and I will stand by it. My W does not seem to be angry about it, in fact she told me quite soon afterwards that the logical part of her brain knew it was a "perfect world" situation and she knew that it probably would not work.
As for the things said in anger, I'm quite sure that none of what I said was in anger, maybe anger at myself for agreeing to something too quickly that I knew deep down could not work, and anger at myself for disappointing my W yet again.
Also, good point about her feeling loneliness while she is still in the house, there are definitely ways that I will be moving on and she will see them.
Thanks again for all your advice, these forums are a real lifesaver, they've pulled me out of some very dark clouds.
