If your WAS would agree...

[NNP1965]

oldtimer, you asked so I will try to summerize what I think is going on in my sitch as best I can.

My H is doing what he has done each time in the past. He wants to take back everything that has happened, say he loves me and continue on. Of course he thinks that will work because it always has in the past. BUT it won't this time. I love him and want him to be my H but only if we can have a passionate marriage based on respect, trust and honesty.

I think he would benefit from IC and we would need MC. But I can not make that choice for him, it must be something he wants and seeks out. It would be a long (probably) very hard road, but I believe that God can work miracles.

There are a few things that are different from the past times. H and I are truly talking and sharing things.

I have gotten up off the floor and will no longer be a doormat, but I will keep the welcome mat out.