Actually, in my case I think I need Burt's
toughlove coaching. I think it's good for me. It makes me want to challenge myself when he says "I don't have it in me to go dark."

I just need to be kind to myself when I make mistakes and realize that change doesn't happen overnight.

Maybe I needed a big backsliding day like yesterday to get it out of my system. I learned from yesterday, and I'm definitely not going to ask him any more R questions again.

It's time for me to live life and enjoy it! If H comes back, great. If he doesn't, his loss. smile


Me 40
H 43
T 4 years
M 9 months
Stepson 9 years old
He left on 5/17/09