Oh, I forgot to mention that beyond the stbx bullsh*t last night, one of the nicest things was offered to me that I have ever experienced.
I don't think I've ever talked about this here before, but since J abandoned us on the house, and I couldn't afford it, I tried to get a modification or refi on it and couldn't get it down to where just I could afford it. It also needed some work, which I couldn't afford to do. The mortgage company told me to try to do a short sale on it. I didn't get any takers that the company would accept their offer. Long story short, my attorney told me to just let it go, since the kids and I had a place to live, etc. He told me if the mortgage company came after me for the deficiency that I would have to claim bankruptcy... Yeah, my credit is now royally screwed. So is J's, but he doesn't give a flip.
So, we have been playing baseball with this coach since S was 4, so 4 years. I hadn't really talked to him about my situation, but he had obviously figured out that J and I had split up. He really loves my S, and pours the praise on him constantly. So, unknown to myself, coach and his dad buy, fix up, and sell houses on the side. He's a teacher and baseball coach during the day. Appearantly, our house has come up on the list for sale at auction this month. I didn't know this, but knew it would happen soon. So, coach pulls me aside after the game after J has left, after our talk.
He pretty much says, M, I don't know exactly what's going on with your situation, but I know that you and J are getting divorced, and he's not helping out that much. He tells me he saw our house listed and asks if the kids and I need help. He then offers to buy our house at what it's listed for (which is way less than what we owed) and either sell it back to me, or rent it to me.
Now, I don't want to do this, because it just holds too many memories and the kids and I have made a fresh start and are doing well. My S will be going to a new school next year where he wants to go and the majority of his sports friends go there. But I cannot say how much it meant to me that he would offer to do that for us. I thanked him profusely and explained the situation to him, and that I thought we were better off where we are with a fresh start. He totally understood, gave me a big hug, said he hoped he didn't embarass me, but wanted to help us if we needed it.
I am so lucky to have many good people in my and my kid's life. I was extremely touched by his offer.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
