W didn't make it to court at 8am this morning. Doesn't look like she even remembers. The D is scheduled to be dismissed this morning. I'm going to keep checking through out the day. YAY!
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Really Kevin are you serious. You don't think she remembered? She has a L right he reminded her. What the he!! difference does it make, I know your happy about it but why? It means nothing at all.
It's not like this is a criminal case where double jeopardy applies, she could refile tomorrow. You have way too much energy invested into her filing or not. What are you going to do when she does file?
Kev I'm very worried that you'll be worse off than when you started this process when she does file...Almost all your happiness is dependent of what she is or isn't doing and that is unhealthy.
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Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Ya. Not much else I can do is there. I'm having dinner with Lnlyrzr tonite somehwere in Frisco. That should be fun.
My girls are staying with W overnight since I don't know when I will be back. It just means I keep them over next wednesday night.
How can I go 100 days without talking about W when I will be running into her and interacting with her? You keep it ALL business that's how. Only talk about the kids. I ran into her again at my apartment because she needed some stuff for the girls. I said that was fine. She has a key, go ahead. [color:#3333FF]What!!! Seriously!?! Do you have a key to her place and can go as you please. What part of YOU need to get back RESPECT and STOP being a DOORMAT (Literally!) Dont you get? She's NEVER going to LOVE YOU let alone RESPECT YOU if you let her walk all over you NOT to mention PITY!!! YOU. [/color] Then I got here and she said hi and cya later. I said the same.
I split the xanax in half today. Doing much better from that. Last night I took a full one again thinking maybe I would be fine this time. Well, I was, but then fell asleep. Meanwhile D11 couldn't get me to wake up so she called MIL. Then MIL called W to say I might have had a heart attack. So next thing I know, W is knocking at the door wanting to know what is going on. I told her I was drowsy from the meds and I am going to cut the dosage in half which again, I did today and it worked fine that way. All was fine. But just yet another reason I'm sure for MIL to hold something else against me and give W more ammo. Again! Why do you think having your W feel SORRY FOR YOU and PITYING YOU is going to make her come back. Like EVERYONE has told you it will just make her RUN!!! the other way faster. Women want a STRONG, CONFIDENT MAN not a basket case. STOP!!! all the talk about being on meds and telling her your PROBLEMS ALL TOGETHER. Seriously do you want this M or NOT!!!??? Come on Kev! Time to MAN UP DAWG!!! We're all just trying to HELP. It's up to u to do the WORK!!! No one said it was easy. Keep on truckin!!! I just put basil seasoning on a ham and cheese sandwich with mayo. That was really good. I had never put basil on a sandwich before.
I don't think you all are seeing the positives here. Yes she can refile. But in the mean time, it buys me more time to DB. And no she does not have a L. She is doing it all on her own.
I have more time to work with this. Thats a positive. It was the best I could hope for at this point.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I did not tell her what the meds were for and I did not look for pity. I do have a garage door opener to her place.
How about some encouragement of more time to DB.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I don't think you all are seeing the positives here. Yes she can refile. But in the mean time, it buys me more time to DB. And no she does not have a L. She is doing it all on her own.
I have more time to work with this. Thats a positive. It was the best I could hope for at this point.
Kevin
Very true. Now HOW r u going to use this FOUND time??? What r your GOALS?!?
NO IT'S NOT...The best you can hope for is to get to a point were this doesn't occupy so much of your life.
I glad you're happy but what is going to happen if she refiles tomorrow where are you going to be mentally?
Will it suck when my W files sure but by DBing I KNOW I can live a great life without her, do I want that no but the choice is not mine.
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But in the mean time, it buys me more time to DB.
Kevin I'm really not sure you have started to DBing. You don't have a PMA you GAL a little I guess but your happiness depends on your W and that is NOT going to attract her back and she sees it.
Once again I'm telling you this because I was the same way and I don't want you to have to take as long as I did to get out of it. I really don't think you realize how good your life can be with or without your W.
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Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
I did not tell her what the meds were for and I did not look for pity. I do have a garage door opener to her place.
How about some encouragement of more time to DB.
Kevin
I apologize if I'm coming off too rough. Just trying to help you not make the same mistakes I did. You ultimately will have to make your own choices. Keep on doing what works.
I apologize if I'm coming off too rough. Just trying to help you not make the same mistakes I did. You ultimately will have to make your own choices. Keep on doing what works.
Me too Kevin...
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
I understand what you all are saying. But I am taking this as a prayer answered and a positive note to build on.
I can't believe she didn't show or call in or email. That's wonderful. I don't know why, but I will take it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
