Just FYI, this OM looks like her grandfather...literally. Her grandfather was the only positive male role model in her life. Her dad left their family when she was six and never came home. So when we were first dating up to the month that she left (17 years mind you), she would ask me if I would ever cheat on her and that there was never a good reason to cheat on somebody, etc. Boy was I surprised when I found out what she did. She even denied it. I kind of blew up when I told her that she had some nerve to ask me about cheating (and I have never done it) when she did it herself.
First of all, it doesn't matter what he looks like or that he's not as successful as you are- or whatever the case may be. Many times when a spouse has an affair they "affair down". It's not about all of that- more about the way he makes her "feel" and people who are engaging in an affair are all about how they "feel" and their "feelings and emotions".
I myself hated cheaters and talked about people who did. I was really up there on my moral highhorse. I had attended the same church for 17 years- taught Sunday School- Vacation Bible School etc. I never thought I would get where I did- but I did. I'm an extremely strong person due to what I have suffered in my life so it's amazing to me that at that point I could be so weak.
