"For now, all I can muster for her is pity that she has to destroy the lives of many people to make herself happy.".. that sounds a bit judgemental though? You have a strong faith, arent you supposed to be accepting and NOT judge others?
I have never claimed to be perfect, but I am saved by Christ's grace. My feelings toward the OW are very difficult for me to deal with. I know God calls for me to forgive her and love her also, but I struggle with it--there is still a lot of pain there.
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Maybe ow just loves him, you know? The heart wants what the heart wants. Helen loved my bf, I know she did and thats ok. Its not her fault. It was HIS fault. HIS choice. She wasnt the enemy.
I do know that she was pursuing him, knowing he was a married man with children. Sorry, there is nothing that excuses that. Yes, my DH chose to take the friendship further than it should have gone, but she also should not have been putting herself out there to a married man. Believing yourself in love does not give you the right to deliberately hurt others.
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Well, you are getting a lot of advice here and yuo always say, yep, done that already.. so I sort of dont know what else to suggest.
I do not know if you have all of of my threads, but rest assured, I am not laying out platitudes or discounting what others have suggested to me. I re-read my threads often as a learning experience to ensure I never get where I was again.
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Except really let go. Even with the "God will restore my M" stuff.. because you know SMW, maybe he will and maybe he wont. People pray for miracles all the time, particularly with matters of health for example, but they dont always happen. Realistically, you must know that to be true. Have you ever thought its a little arrogant to EXPECT God to do something you want? Maybe he doesnt agree with what you want! Maybe he's busy!? Perhaps there is some acceptance you still need to work on, then your DH will notice the difference in you??
May I ask why you post to me if you do not ascribe to my beliefs and cannot support my faith in God to restore my marriage? God wants us to be persistent in our prayer life. I consider it to be a test of our faithfulness, even through the delays. I posted earlier on this thread a teaching on God's delays :We need to remember that God's delays are purposeful and God's delays are a necessary part of the process for us to take possession of our spiritual inheritance.
No, I do not believe it is arrogant to think God will keep His promises. I believe it is faith in His truth and His word. Luke 11:9-13 says "So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!"
God answers prayers in one of three ways: Yes, no, or not yet. God has shown me "yes, but not yet" with regards to my marriage. I know I still have things in my life that I need to change and work on. I still struggle with impatience, especially with the kids. My house could be cleaner, I should have better time management, I should ALWAYS have more time alone with God. But, I maintain faith in the promises God has given His children.
I have never told my husband that God will restore our marriage. I do not shove religion down his throat. The girls ask him often to attend church because THEY remember us all attending church as a family. He has turned his back on the Lord and the Good Shepherd will go after his lost sheep. His Word tells us that in the three parables contained within Luke 15.
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Other than that, you sound very strong and together and good for you SMW, xxx
Well, I am glad that you have approval for some of what I am doing. I am simply trying to live life the way God has called me. I am human and I do make mistakes, but I pick myself up and get back on track as quickly as I possibly can. God's grace is sufficient to get me through these trials and God's power will be glorified and made perfect through my weaknesses.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
