"For now, all I can muster for her is pity that she has to destroy the lives of many people to make herself happy.".. that sounds a bit judgemental though? You have a strong faith, arent you supposed to be accepting and NOT judge others? Maybe ow just loves him, you know? Its possible hey?? The heart wants what the heart wants. Helen loved my bf, I know she did and thats ok. Its not her fault. It was HIS fault. HIS choice. She wasnt the enemy. I dont suggest you invite her into your home though! Although, I did tell my then ex, I was willing to meet her if he wanted, if that would make it easier for us to remain friends. I remember he looked very freaked out at that prospect and it was never going to happen.
Well, you are getting a lot of advice here and yuo always say, yep, done that already.. so I sort of dont know what else to suggest. Except really let go. Even with the "God will restore my M" stuff.. because you know SMW, maybe he will and maybe he wont. People pray for miracles all the time, particularly with matters of health for example, but they dont always happen. Realistically, you must know that to be true. Have you ever thought its a little arrogant to EXPECT God to do something you want? Maybe he doesnt agree with what you want! Maybe he's busy!? Perhaps there is some acceptance you still need to work on, then your DH will notice the difference in you??
Other than that, you sound very strong and together and good for you SMW, xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
