Well, I've written everything else on here..... so....
The other day, after W settled on her house I was feeling like a milestone was passed. So, I put a profile on Match. I don't think I was really jumping the gun, we've been separated for years, except for sharing a house, and kids, of course. But it still feels weird. I guess it was a little impulsive. I've had a little contact, not a lot, and I have been very clear about the situation. I did meet a woman at lunch today.... pleasant enough, and I could see meeting again, but no sparks, or anything like that. I figure that's a good thing. I'm not so "desperate" that I'm latching on to the first person that shows an interest.
Anyway, now that I've already done it..... what do you guys think? I'm inclined to leave it up, and see what happens. But, I can make it invisible, if I choose to. Any opinions?
Jeff, Caught my eye, if you are ready to move forward then pursue it, if you aren't sure then hold off. On your post it sounds like you are approaching readiness. You didn't run away from the alt contact and you were aware of your feelings in the sitch.
I think I am close to ready, as well. In a way, I was glad that this first contact wasn't a "firestarter", so to speak. Then I would be questioning myself a lot more. I think as long as I keep my feet on the ground, or at least pretty near to it, I'll be ok.
I do want to hear what my other friends here think, sometimes I think they know me better than I know myself!
I was thinking... I have always been a keep things to myself type of person, probably to a fault, or even way past that. One thing that posting here really has helped with is me opening up to other people. I'm going to try to apply that in real life!
I haven't been on the boards much (should I say as much lol) lately but I just wanted to stop by and say hi. I'm glad your wife's house went through, mine is still dragging!
Definitely leave the profile up there. I think it never does any harm to put yourself out there and you never know wht might happen. For me personally the online method, I don't think, would work but I know a few people who've met the loves of their lives that way. The right person is out there waiting or looking as we speak.
I think it's so exciting that you met someone for lunch. Take it slowly and let things happen naturally. I think there's sometimes a tendency to jump into things quickly when an LTR ends, but I don't think that's going to happen with you somehow.
