I have been posting on the Newcomers section, but I would love to hear some input from WAWs on my sitch. My W told me 5 weeks ago she had been seeing a C and had decided she did not want to be married to me anymore. ILYBNILWY, her emotional gas tank was empty, felt no romantic feelings for me, did not want sex with me or anyone else. I was devastated - did not see it coming.
For the last 4 weeks, have been DB'ing. Initially told W I was making major changes in my life (stopped drinking - don't miss it - have been patient, loving and kind with the kids, and have done weel at maintaining a PMA). She said 4 weeks ago it didn't matter what I changed, her feelings for me would not change, said she was "resolute" in her decision to D, and said the changes were good but would benefit "the next person." She also said she had had bad years with our R - but admits she never told me.
For the past 4 weeks, I have not pursued her. I have been pleasant and helpful (still live in same house). She has, likewise, been pleasant and courteous towards me. At times, W seems interested to talk and joke with me, makes eye contact with me, especially if the kids do something funny. W has not brought up D, selling house or anything about our R. I know it has only been 4 weeks, but I am hoping I am getting through and melting her attitude at least somewhat.
Although anything is possible, I see no signs of an affair - EA or PA. She denied any affair on the night she dropped the bomb on me.
She is in early menopause and has been a SAHM the last 1.5 yrs - which is not her personality - she really enjoys working and derives a lot (too much?) of her self worth from her job. She recently went back to work.
W may also be in MLC.
Any thoughts? Too early to expect any feedback from her? Thanks.
