Hey Kenn! How's it going? If he stays on the crazy train and ever shows up at my house in the middle of the night again pounding on the door univited, I may have to consider that. The second thing, maybe I could tell him that and it would help, but I want nothing to do with him other than the kids and business stuff, so it would be misleading.
Last edited by SoConfused; 06/04/0903:03 AM.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Now lets talk about the patio party.... are we doing margaritas or shots?
First off I need directions ... Texas if bigger than France....
Second... I don't need a chair, if you'll just sweep off a patio block for me next to a wall or something i can lean against... I'll be fine
Third,,,, ifwe are doing shots... we have to use Patron. AND instead of lime... grab some oranges. Chill and slice the oranges up, put Patron in freezer for an hour, bite the orange and do the shot.... It's called a Yum Yum....
Very good... the only negative thing I can think about is when you are describing it to someone and your eight year old daughter tells them, "yeah, it's a yum yum"... that can be a wee bit embarrassing.....
Oh.... that would be realluy funny at the next ball game if you were surrounded by four guys... LMAO!!!!! Well worth the plane ticket
Hey! I just needed the alcohol tonight, lol. No fruit needed. I went back and added more to the post above. Well, I only have until tomorrow to see if anything did any good. Y'all better hop on that plane fast. Oh, T2 said she would come too. I think she could probably kick some a**.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
And I would be more than than honored to drink with T2 also... oops forgot we were talking about a teen baseball game...
T2 I would like to sit next to you and drink a pepsi at the game.... then have a shot with you at the patio LOL!
Seriously though... it's 1138 eastern time... give me the number and I'll call him and in a real throaty italian mobster voice tell him ....... the baseball season has been cancelled..idefinitley!
no... I am not italian and yes ... i know i am not really being of any help
So, we had a little serious talk after the game was over and I hope hope hope he heard me. Really hope. But at the same time he was all focused on what am I doing, do I have a boyfriend, lalalalalala. Not sure he heard me. I was firm but polite.
Maybe you just answered your own question. Did he hear you ? Probably deep down he did, but probably not enough to do much good for now. His own little world was already in full swing.
The good part is that you did say it to him...
As I'm reading this, I'm thinking of how inmature this guy is right now.....That is crap that you would usually see in High School.
This all comes down to respect, and I'm not seeing that he respects you at all. All the other sh*t is irrelavant if he doesn't respect you M. That HAS to happen first. And I'm not talking just a Marriage either. I'm saying for anything that the future holds. Whether it is a relationship, or just being good induvidual parents. That is why these boundries HAVE to happen. It is about ANYTHING in the future.
If he doesn't respect you in one aspect of your life, chances are that he won't in ANY aspect.
Watch to see what happens, and at the FIRST sign of him not respecting your boundry, lay down the smack down on his a$$. Firmly, but in a way that shows him that you aren't willing to sacrifice yourself for his BS.
you...yourself is too high of a price to pay for this crap.....
Got any frequent flyer miles to cash in for that shot ?
You are soooo right. He does not respect anyone right now. Not me, not his kids, not himself. Just a huge trainwreck mess. It is totally like HS bs. I long ago out grew that bs drama, and that's why it beats me down so much.
I have stated to him politely at least a couple of times now, so yeah, if he doesn't respect my boundaries tonight, I will lay the smack down... lol Or as T2 says use my b*tch power...
I mean really, it's pretty dam* bad if everybody else notices it too and thinks he's nuts.
Oh and he tried to give me this big hug right when the game ended before we had the talk, and my s8 saw this. So, of course, then on the drive home I get the question, so are you and dad getting better and working stuff out? See, now he's freaking confusing my kids, which pisses me off. My son is very smart and mature, so I just flat out told him, No baby, dad and I are not getting back together. We are just friends and that is all. He was fine with that answer. I don't want him to carry this false hope.
Anyway, I wish I had enough frequent flier miles for all of ya'll!!!! Why does everybody live so darn far away???
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Oh, I forgot to mention that beyond the stbx bullsh*t last night, one of the nicest things was offered to me that I have ever experienced.
I don't think I've ever talked about this here before, but since J abandoned us on the house, and I couldn't afford it, I tried to get a modification or refi on it and couldn't get it down to where just I could afford it. It also needed some work, which I couldn't afford to do. The mortgage company told me to try to do a short sale on it. I didn't get any takers that the company would accept their offer. Long story short, my attorney told me to just let it go, since the kids and I had a place to live, etc. He told me if the mortgage company came after me for the deficiency that I would have to claim bankruptcy... Yeah, my credit is now royally screwed. So is J's, but he doesn't give a flip.
So, we have been playing baseball with this coach since S was 4, so 4 years. I hadn't really talked to him about my situation, but he had obviously figured out that J and I had split up. He really loves my S, and pours the praise on him constantly. So, unknown to myself, coach and his dad buy, fix up, and sell houses on the side. He's a teacher and baseball coach during the day. Appearantly, our house has come up on the list for sale at auction this month. I didn't know this, but knew it would happen soon. So, coach pulls me aside after the game after J has left, after our talk.
He pretty much says, M, I don't know exactly what's going on with your situation, but I know that you and J are getting divorced, and he's not helping out that much. He tells me he saw our house listed and asks if the kids and I need help. He then offers to buy our house at what it's listed for (which is way less than what we owed) and either sell it back to me, or rent it to me.
Now, I don't want to do this, because it just holds too many memories and the kids and I have made a fresh start and are doing well. My S will be going to a new school next year where he wants to go and the majority of his sports friends go there. But I cannot say how much it meant to me that he would offer to do that for us. I thanked him profusely and explained the situation to him, and that I thought we were better off where we are with a fresh start. He totally understood, gave me a big hug, said he hoped he didn't embarass me, but wanted to help us if we needed it.
I am so lucky to have many good people in my and my kid's life. I was extremely touched by his offer.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
It is totally like HS bs. I long ago out grew that bs drama, and that's why it beats me down so much.
Uh oh....
Did you ?
Really ?
Cause from what I see, Everytime you answer the phone after what would be a normal time, or answer the Midnight doorbell ringing contest. You are just feeding it...
If you move that little forest there......you can see that tree.
