First do what is right for you period. Four months is great BUT it is still a short time he still doesn't know how to deal with feelings but he is learning . I had the same feelings about I'm sober everything should be fine and blamed my W for not realizing this. I hate to say this but it took me about a year to get to a point that I could deal with everything. If I had to guess he's very worried about relapsing and he's scared but he has to deal with that you can't do anything about that. He has a ways to go and I know it's hard for you.
Being an addict is about instant gratification and that's what he wants with your M, it doesn't happen and it's frustrating for him. IF you can hang on I promise it will get better if he keeps working the program.
You cant get your hopes too high with the good times because there will be backslides but he will get better with more time.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
