What did bother me was that he went behind my back and talks to the kids about spending time with him and possibly extra time. He makes a big deal about us talking first and how he doesn't think we should say anything to the kids until things are decided. I already said no I didn't think additional time with the overnights was a good idea, especially with his move coming and new situations having to be coped with. He hears things the way he wants to.
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If you mean by hearing things the way he wants to, he listens to you and then goes ahead and does what he wants anyway, then yep, I think so.
My H does that too. You know he always wants to us to clear stuff with email ahead of time, but several times now he'll email about something and D9 will say oh, yeah, dad already told us that (re: stuff like an extra night or whatever). But if I did that, talking to the kids, then him, he'd freak!!! I don't think they treat others as they want to be treated. Karen
