Um, what everyone else said Kevin. Re-read these posts 10 times to yourself out loud if you have to. If it meant she "WOKE UP" you'd know by now, and she would not be asking you which single groups you're going to so she can avoid you b/c she IS going out with OM...remember? She dates...
It also means she can refile and you'll be divorced 60 days from now, if she does it tomorrow AND It means she does not have to pay YOU money for now...see, financially SHE benefits by not filing..NOT YOU, That's what I think it means...
Still if you take this as an opportunity that we have ALL been talking/cajoling/yelling to you, endlessly and perhaps to NO AVAIL to do...then maybe you can turn it around. By going steady and slow...(How many times will I write this? I hope this is the last time. Yes, IT IS THE LAST TIME I'M WRITING THAT TO YOU).
I just think she's regrouping and maybe you won't hit the iceberg of divorce this week, assuming you are accurate on the dates...so if you want to turn this huge ship around and not sink doing it, stay the course and STOP asking questions that prove to us, you are not getting it or listening.
I mean a PART OF YOU is "getting it," I THINK, but then you back slide so far, seemingly every time you move forward. It's hard for me to see or comprehend you STILL HANGING on HER every act OR FAILURE to act...good God Kevin, how long will it take for you to want to live a real life of your own making?
Did you EVER think about my question re; what you'd do if she had died? Would you curl up and die like you seem to suggest doing IF this M finally ends? What about your girls? [/i] Re-read the posts that help you stay on track and try really really hard to NOT post your every fear and see if YOU can steer your thought process better. It's not adult like to give voice to every single fear you have and then see it in writing gives it more power. When a negative or unhealthy thought enters your mind, KICK IT OUT and don't let it fester...
when do you see the C? Tell them what you tell us and See if they see what we see... like stuff you know your wife was NOT attracted to, and yet the same stuff you seem hell bent on showing her NOW...
It's like a bad movie where the audience screams at the main character and cannot believe the choices he makes over and over...
You may not be the strongest man in the world. Yet. So what? You are strong ENOUGH to get through this and more.
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
