So Coach, how did you get your W to initiate things?
I tried to be "on" when around her - looks, smells, had conversations ideas ready, interesting stories to tell, took away all the objections she had. I didn't discuss my sitch with anyone locally who would get back to her, I did healthy things - exercise, set up my drums in the living room, played with the dog. Took care of myself and tried all kinds of 180s, goals, do something different etc. I was all over the boards here last summer trying to get a new idea that would fix it. It's about you being your best for yourself.
I would lovingly challenge your W on some of her comments. She says she wants to be left alone. You - I feel a little confused by that because you seemed to really enjoy our time together like the other night at the dinner table. Help me understand why you feel that way? Frame it this way: I feel ______ when you do _________.
Her LL is AOS - taking out the garbage is a no-brainer. Get all over helping with the house, clean her car, run errands etc. No expectations in return. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
