Pursuing will drive him away. Become the most attractive woman you are capable of. Dburt gave you great advise, but you did not listen. Detatching and moving on with your life without him will keep you from pushing him farther away. People want what they can not have. Become unavailable so that he wants you.
Do you understand projection? Project that you are moving on with out him. Project that you are happy without him. People are attracted to happy people.
I am enjoying life. I project that.
I wake up in the morning, take several deep breaths and enjoy how nice that feels. I lay in bed and enjoy the comfort of the sheets. I have visually stimulating pictures in my room to look at. I get up and shower. I have several choices of shampoo that smell very nice. I enjoy how nice the hot water feels on my body. I massage my head with the shampoo and enjoy that feeling. I spend extra time grooming my self in the morning. I make myself look and smell as good as possible. I pass out smiles all day long, I get lots back. These things make me happy. I enjoy every minute of the day. I am "IN THE NOW" and do not dwell on the past or the future. When in the presence of my ex, I just enjoy her for who she is. She has made her choices. I do not take her choices personal. I sing at church. I dance with my kids. I walk in the rain. These things make me happy. Take action to be happy alone. If you are lonely, go out and mingle with other people. I visit starbucks on a regular basis. I know each of the employees by name. I know details about there lifes. This makes me happy. I talk to the people in line. Each one is interesting. I listen to there stories. This makes me happy.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
