@Lucky - your explorations are taking you into treacherous waters. On the subject of "growing together in the marriage" there's a fundamental difference between growing [together, concurrently, simultaneously, harmoniously, in tandem, in sync] and growing the same direction. And, more to the rather indelicate point, if one had been growing in the way you suggest on the previous page, one presumably would not be here. Which is why I've taken to thinking of relationships in one sense as a process of continual "meeting" - because you're never so "set" that you can't make a bad impression.
