Dang. I had a whole long post and when I previewed it I forgot to save it!
Here is my take on the sitch- which you may not end up liking.....
She is either still involved with OM or she is going through extreme withdrawal from working with him. It's obvious to me because she is fine on the weekends and then on Mondays she gets hateful and stuff. What's the connection there? She sees OM at work or at the very least associates it with him.
She cannot work with OM. Period. Too much temptation. Every time she sees him or interacts with him she has to go through withdrawal from the affair again or has the temptation to go back to it.
She's either gone deeper underground with the affair or is just in withdrawal. I vote for #1. Have you checked her email or cell phone bills???
She seems to want to continue to live with you because it benefits her financially and with help with the kids. But she doesn't feel any need to try to meet your needs or work on the marriage. Question is- how long are you willing to live in a loveless marriage??
