I want to help you but doubt I am the right person to do so. I think since he's texted you since, maybe you let it go. At most I would say "yes, it is sad."
As for the girls ONLY do it if it works for you and is manageable.
I just know others with more experience can help here. Validating is as far as I would go.
Wifey, I am so sorry. It must have been a hard day for you today. I cannot imagine having been here for that long...you are doing the right thing by keeping the faith. I am also, although I must be feeling your pain today because it has proven to be a hard one. Do you and H live close to each other?
Never lose hope....:)
Thank you, Nicole. H lives with his parents (despite his desire to be his own man and to figure out who he is on is own) about 15 minutes away. We see each other pretty regularly.
I am keeping the faith. Sometimes the only way to deal with the pain is to cry my eyes out and pray. I highly recommend the praying.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
so that is what I texted back...and he called me right away to talk about the kids, and picking them up. of course no mention of the first text...not that I expected it. So..I guess here is where I wait.
Wifey- I think it is hard when you see them on a regular basis. I feel like I am taking 10 steps back whenever I see H. It is funny...in a way, that my H is on his own...(in a small house all alone with no one, and away from everything we have built...)...and yours with his parents...and THIS is better for them? Figuring things out??
I cried my eyes out yesterday and prayed alot. I prayed for the strength and to get a break from the pain. I also prayed for my H. And of course I prayed for a sign to keep going and then last night I got that text from H....he actually said he missed me. It was nice to hear...but now I am praying for the wisdom to go about the rest of this journey the right way.... and I prayed for everyone here on this post.
so that is what I texted back...and he called me right away to talk about the kids, and picking them up. of course no mention of the first text...not that I expected it. So..I guess here is where I wait.
men are confusing.
Take it from me, actively waiting is really just torture. Life can't wait. He could do this for months and years. I think it is early enough to have faith and sort of let him do his thing. But, back to you. What are you up to?
all very agreeable and true. I guess I am just waiting to see what he has up his sleeve next. But the good news is that I am being proactive. With a little nudging and guidance from my sister, I called my landlord today to see what H told her about the lease. H told me that he talked to her and told her we were not going to renew the lease...which was not entirely accurate. He left her a message saying that. She never actually talked to him and apparantly he doesn't know that our lease is actually up August 1st instead of July first. PHEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is such a relief for me. I was thinking I was coming under the gun as far as moving. Then she told me her husband was just laid off and that we could talk about going month to month after that. Still can't afford this place though. Do you think landlords are open to renegotiating as far as price goes for rent. If I asked her to lower the rent, maybe I could stay here. That would be FABULOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Things are looking up!
all very agreeable and true. I guess I am just waiting to see what he has up his sleeve next. But the good news is that I am being proactive. With a little nudging and guidance from my sister, I called my landlord today to see what H told her about the lease. H told me that he talked to her and told her we were not going to renew the lease...which was not entirely accurate. He left her a message saying that. She never actually talked to him and apparantly he doesn't know that our lease is actually up August 1st instead of July first. PHEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is such a relief for me. I was thinking I was coming under the gun as far as moving. Then she told me her husband was just laid off and that we could talk about going month to month after that. Still can't afford this place though. Do you think landlords are open to renegotiating as far as price goes for rent. If I asked her to lower the rent, maybe I could stay here. That would be FABULOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Things are looking up!
Yes, you must give it a shot with the landlord! You never know. It is a pain to get new tenants and maybe she will work something out with you. Yay. If not, you've got a bit more time.
I would be less accomodating, you are waaayyy too busy for him to just call you anytime he wants and picks the daughters up, how about next time say that we are on the way to the mall and this and that, but I tell you what you sure can see them on Saturday.
Probably time to get a schedule for the kids so they get to see their Dad on a regular basis and not this irregular anytime he wants schedule.
