Hmmm... If you're in tune with each other, day in and day out of the marriage, aren't you changing together and learning each other's insides and outsides along the way?
By adjusting a persona, I don't mean holding back a fart or putting forth some sort of decorum as you get to know each other. I'm talking about engaging in activities that may not be authentic to your own interests or beliefs... I'm talking about pretending to be someone who really isn't YOU in order to lure them back.
If another person inspires you to try something new or revive an old hobby, it isn't at all bad. If you are overthinking your demeanor and each and every "how do you do" with your spouse... How is that authentic, loving, or even fun?
There are grey areas between 1) DBing, 2) just being yourself and representing your authentic feelings, and 3) masterminding, possibly manipulating in order to lure...
