We go through life having to adjust what we reveal in certain places for survival and/or success. When I initially met my H, I was able to breathe a sigh of relief because I felt that I could truly be myself with him.
Damn straight! This is how I met W. I quit trying to "meet people" and just had fun going places and doing things. And what do you know the most natural woman I knew was right there.
Here's the exception: In our current state of marriage problems or divorce there is a "fake it till you make it" need. We're being called on to show strength, integrity, and faith, we may currently not have to endure a situation we've never faced before. We're not doing this to "win the girl back", we're doing it to win ourselves back. I don't look at it as being fake but building qualities in myself. It's only fake until it becomes us.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
